Bann dimoun ki ankes tou…ziska zot nepli kapav

Ena bann dimoun otour nou ki paret for touletan. Zame zot plengne, zame zot demann nanye, zame zot deranz personn. Zot ankese, ankor ek ankor. 

Nou admir zot pou zot kalm, zot pasians, ek zot kapasite zer tou. Nou apel zot bann solid. Me deryer sa fasad-la…souvan ena enn dimoun ki nepli kapav ek so soufrans invizib.

Pri silans : kan to abitie gard tou andan

Telman to'nn abitie gard tou pou twa pa dir nanye, to bann lemosion anile. Koler ek tristes kasiet ek soufrans ignore. Apre to lekor fini par koze dan plas bann mo : stres kronik, anksiete, bann troub somey, douler fizik. Lasante mantal ek fizik efondre dousman, san fer tapaz. 

Bann dimoun ki ankes tou panse zot bann lemosion pa valid

Bann lezot dan tousala ?

Otour twa, ena to fami, to bann kamarad, to bann koleg. Ena pa remark nanye…me ena swazir pou pa fer nanye. Parski zot agase, per, oubien parski li pli sinp fer sanblan tou korek. Apre, sa dimoun-la pa dir nanye non ? Be silans vinn kolektif. Enn lakor komin kinn fer dan silans : pa deranz personn ek personn pa deranz twa.

⚠️ Eski to ti kone ?

Souvan, bann dimoun ki ankes tou, zot mem kinn aprann depi bien boner pou pa exprime ek dir seki zot bizin.

Dan zot latet, zot fini integre lide ki :

Zot bann lemosion deranz dimoun,

Si zot demann led, sa enn febles,

Zot rol se ankese, res for touletan pou lezot.

Rezilta : zot vinn bann exper dan kasiet seki zot resanti…mem kan zot nepli kapav.

Pli gran piez : paret for…ek retrouv twa tousel

Bann ki touletan ankes tou pa invinsib. Zot zis inn vinn invizib dan zot soufrans. Plis zot for ek tini, mwins zot lantouraz demann zot kouma zot santi zot vremem. Plis zot riye, mwins zot lantouraz panse ki zot pa bien.

Avek letan, zot izol zot. Pa parski zot anvi res tousel, me parski zot nepli kone kouma pou montre zot frazilite.

Si nou sanz nou regar ?

Sa bann dimoun-la pa bizin ki nou admir zot lafors ankor. Zot bizin ki nou donn zot permision pou vinn kouma enn imin.

Enn regar atantif, enn kestion sinser, enn prezans san zizman. Parfwa, pa bizin gran zafer pou briz enn silans. Si olie nou valoriz zis zot rezistans…nou aprann rekonet zot fatig.

FAQ : konpran bann dimoun ki ankes tou 

Kifer sertin dimoun gard tou pou zot ?

Souvan, ena enn lien avek zot zistwar personel. Zot inn aprann pa exprim zot bann lemosion pou evit konfli, pa deranz lezot ek fer zot aksepte par zot lantouraz.

Ki bann sign ki montre ki enn dimoun pe soufer an silans ?

Li fatige touletan, fer koler brit, izol limem, resanti bann douler fizik ki pa kapav explike, oubien okontrer enn ena laparans ki touletan parfe ek bien kontrole.

Kifer lantouraz pa realize touletan ?

Parski bann sign-la bien diskre, oubien parski sa met mal alez. Parfwa, dimoun panse vremem ki si zot pa dir nanye, savedir tou korek.

Eski li danzere gard tou pou twa ?

Wi. Avek letan, sa kapav ena enn linpak lor to lasante mantal (anksiete, burn-out, depresion) ek fizik ( fatig kronik, douler, troub somey).

Kouma ed enn dimoun ki pa kontan koz lor so bann problem ?

Kre enn lespas sir, san zizman. Poz bann kestion ouver, montre ki to la, ek sirtou respekte so ritm san forse. 

Seki to stil vestimanter dir lor to leta emosionel

To’nn deza pas devan to laglas ek demann to mem : “Kifer mo'nn swazir sa jean-la zordi ? Ek sa t-shirt ble pal la ? 

Kapav to ti pe zis panse dan lakel linz to pou pli alez…oubien to swa donn bokou plis detay ki to panse lor twa. Nou stil vestimanter pa zis enn kestion lamod : li reflekte nou bann lemosion, dan ki leta nou ete, ek parfwa mem nou vre personalite.

Me kouma fer pou dekod sa bann mesaz ki kasiet la? Ek sirtou, kifer nou laparans exteryer revel otan detay lor seki nou ete vremem andan? Anou dekortik sa langaz delika, me pwisan la ansam.

Swa stil vestimanter, enn refle direk nou bann lemosion ek nou personalite

Ble : trankilite, serenite… oubien lanvi rekonfor ?

Souvan nou asosie kouler ble ek trankilite, konfians ek lapezman. Me si sak fwa to swazir bann ton ble pastel swa marinn, eski vremem to santi twa pli trankil ? Oubien to pe rod kalme enn stres interyer ki to pa oze verbalize ?

Kouler ble dan swa stil vestimanter li kapav revel enn lanvi sekirite, enn dezir stabilite dan enn lavi ki parfwa tro azite. Be si to leta despri ti pli expresif ki seki to azenda oubien ki to smartphone montre ? Enn sinp swa t-shirt kapav avoy enn signal kler : mo bizin lape.

Nwar : elegans, mister…oubien proteksion ?

Kouler nwar fasine ek intrig dimoun. Li sik, li fer paret pli mins, li sinplifie…me li enn kouler ki bokou servi kouma enn refiz si. Eski to met kouler nwar pou santi twa invizib ? Pou kasiet to bann lemosion deryer enn vwal sofistikasion ?

Nwar kapav enn larmir : li protez twa kont kiriozite lezot, me li kapav trair enn santiman vilnerabilite si. Prosin kout ki to retrouv twa abiye net an nwar gramatin tanto, demann to mem : ki pe exprime la ? mo stil oubien mo leta emosionel ?

Bann kouler ki atir lizie : lenerzi, kouraz oze…oubien latansion ?

Rouz, zonn, oranz… sa bann kouler-la pa diskre, tou dimoun remark zot. Zot evok kouraz, lazwa, ek parfwa enn lanvi ki dimoun remark twa. Me si souvan to retrouv twa pe met mem bann kouler intans ek for alor ki to pe santi twa strese oubien nerve, sa kapav enn manier, mem si to pa realize, pou prozekte enn konfians ki interyerman to parkor gagne.

Eski parfwa to santi ki to oblize briye pou ki dimoun trouv twa, tann twa oubien apresie twa ? To larmwar kapav enn refle sa lanvi emosionel-la. 

Konfor avan tou : detant…oubien enn lanvi proteksion ?

Ena enn bann ki swazir bann “sweat oversize” ek bann soulie mou kouma enn iniform ki zot pou mete toulezour. Eski nou kapav explik sa zis par enn lanvi konfor oubien sa kasiet enn dezir protez zot mem kont lemond exteryer ?

Stil “casual cocooning” kapav indike ki to pe resantre twa lor to mem, ki to bizin santi to mem an sekirite ek aksepte. Ek si deryer sa swa-la ti ena enn dezir pli profon ki pe kasiet : enn dezir ralanti, respire, rekonekte twa avek to mem ?

Bann akseswar ena enn gran linpak lor to stil vestimanter an zeneral

Bann akseswar : bann ti detay, bann gran revelasion 

Zame to souzestim linpak bann akseswar. Enn mont, enn lasenn, enn sak kouler…Sa bann ti detay-la souvan revel kouma nou pe santi nou andan vremem.

Eski to met bann bizou extravagan pou konpans enn timidite oubien enn mank konfians dan to mem ? Oubien eski to swazir bann ti zafer minimalis pou konsantre lor seki esansiel ek pa perdi to mem dan dezord ki ena deor ? Sak detay ena enn zistwar, ek se to stil ki narater dan silans la.

Kan to stil sanze, to leta interyer si sanze

Eski to'nn deza remarke ki sertin period to lavi marke par enn sanzman stil radikal ? Kapav to'nn pas depi nwar total a pastel oubien bann linz pli konfortab a bann pli oze. Eski sa pa zis explik enn evolision emosionel oubien enn lanvi for pou reinvant to mem ?

To larmwar pa zis enn linvanter bann linz : li enn zournal emosionel an latwal ek kouler. Si to obzerv sa bann sanzman-la, sa kapav ed twa konpran to limer, bann zafer ki to per, ek mem to bann laspirasion. 

To stil vestimanter, enn langaz ki to bizin ekoute

Ki to bann linz pe dir twa zordi ? Eski to pe rod sekirite, vizibilite, serenite oubien zis konfor ?

Seki pli fasinan se ki to stil vestimanter li enn dialog trankil ant twa ek lemond. Li exprim seki to resanti, parfwa pli bien ki bann mo. Ek si nou aprann ekout sa langaz-la, kapav nou pou kapav konpran nou bann prop lemosion pli bien…ek pou bann lezot si.

FAQ : zot bann kestion ki revini souvan

Q1 : Eski nou kapav lir bann lemosion dan enn stil vestimanter vremem ?

Wi ! Bann psikolog ek exper kominikasion afirme ki nou bann swa vestimanter souvan reflekte nou bann lemosion, mem san ki nou realize.

Q2 : Mo stil sanze dapre mo limer, eski li normal? 

Wi. To “dressing” kapav fonksione kouma enn baromet emosionel : sertin zour to rod konfor ek sekirite, lezot zour kouraz pou oze ek vizibilite 

Q3 : Be si touletan mo met mem kouler ?

Li pa enn azar. Bann kouler ki repete souvan reflekte bann dezir emosionel profon oubien to personalite. Obzerv sa repetision la kapav donn twa bann indis lor kouma to pe santi twa vremem.

Q4 : Eski nou kapav servi nou stil pou inflians nou limer ?

Wi ! Met bann kouler oubien bann linz ki sinboliz sertin lemosion (ble pou trankilite, rouz pou lenerzi, pastel pour lezerte) kapav ed twa ena enn kontrol lor to leta emosionel toulezour.

Prosin kout ki to pou get dan laglas, demann to mem : ki mo stil vestimanter pe rod dir mwa ? Sak swa, sak kouler, sak akseswar relie avek to leta emosionel. Aprann dekod sa langaz trankil la, li enn ti pa ver plis konsians lor to mem ek plis bien-et.

To stil li pa zis enn refle lamod : li enn refle kisannla to ete vremem, isi ek asterla.

Ipersansibilite : enn don swa enn fardo

Kikenn inn deza dir twa : 

To pe fer fim

To pe fer plis ki bizin la

To tro pran tou a ker twa

Mo prezant twa kotidien enn ipersansib. Enn lemond kot enn sinp ti remark kapav tourne an bouk pandan trwa zour dan to latet, kot enn fim kapav fer to larm koule san ki to atann, kot to resanti lenerzi enn pies avan mem ki to dir bonzour. Li fatigan ek intans. Anplis, si nou anvi admet vremem, li enn mari zoli zafer. Nou ki bizin aprann viv avek sa.

To tro sansib twa : fraz ki fer plis dega 

Komie fwa to'nn tann sa ? Dan lekol, ant fami, an koup, dan travay. Koumadir resanti bann lemosion plis ki lezot enn defo ki bizin korize. Koumadir ena enn “bug” dan so sistem.

Selman seki zot pa dir twa : ipersansibilite pa enn frazilite, me enn kablaz nerolozik diferan. To servo tret bann linformasion : lemosion, son, lanbians, regar, dan enn manier pli intans ek pli profon ki lezot. Pa dan to latet sa. Li literalman dan to servo.

Savedir non, to pa pe fer plis ki bizin. To zis resanti…kouma nou dir “an ot definision”.

Kouma enn ipersansib viv vremem ?

Parski kan to get depi an deor, to pa trouv li touletan. Me andan ?

- Enn kritik dan travay ek to res pans sa ale mem, mem si li ti konstriktif

- Enn diskision ki pa'nn rezoud ek to pa kapav dormi apre, to servo res tourne, tourne, tourne

- To absorb bann lemosion lezot dimoun kouma enn leponz : zot stres vinn to stres

- Bann tapaz for, lafoul, bann lanbians lour drenn to lenerzi

- To trouv tou seki lezot pa pe oze dir, bann tansion, bann mansonz…souvan avan zot tou

- Ek parfwa to ankoler avek to mem akoz to koumsa. Parski li fatigan pou twa si

Dir mwa,to rekonet omwin 3 sa bann pwin-la? Be lir laswit, li pou twa.

To ipersansibilite pa enn defo ki bizin korize

Aster anou koz don, parski li enn zafer vre

Ipersansibilite li sa si :

To sa dimoun ki remarke kan kikenn pa bien avan ki li dir,

ki kre bann koneksion profon partou kot lezot res zis an sirfas,

ki resanti bote enn lamizik, enn peizaz, enn moman, avek enn lintansite ki bokou pann viv zame,

to kreatif, intwitif, anpatik,

to kontan bien for,

to investi twa vremem,

ek dan enn lemond ki pe sirvol tou la, twa to pe plonze.

Kifer sa vinn enn fardo ek kouma sa arive ?

Vre problem la li pa ipersansibilite. Inn montre twa to bizin gagn onte si to ipersansib.

Telman to tann “aret plore”, “to tro dramatik”, “pran lor twa, kalme twa”, to'nn met dan to latet ki to pe fer plis ki bizin. To’nn koumans devlop bann stratezi : to sey res lwin avek seki to resanti, kontrol twa de fwa plis ki bizin, izol twa, oubien okontrer gard tou pou twa ziska to exploze.

Sa fardo-la, li pa to responsabilite. Li zis pwa tou sa lane ki to'nn pase sey port li la.

Sanz regar lor to mem

Ala seki personn pa dir twa vremem :

To pa bizin vinn mwins sansib. To zis bizin vinn pli solid. Li de zafer diferan. Vinn solid savedir :

→ Aprann pa absorb tou seki to tande. To kapav resanti wi, me pa nway twa ladan. 

→ Kre bann lespas pou to dekonprese. To sistem nerve bizin silans, lanatir, solitid ki rezener twa, pa solitid ki pini twa. Ena enn gran diferans ant sa de konsep-la. 

→ Aret dir sori akoz to pe resanti. To bann lemosion pa bann explozion ki to bizin zere. Okontrer se bann linformasion ki to bizin ekoute. 

→ To bizin antour twa avek bann dimoun ki konpran twa. Pa bann dimoun ki dir twa “kalme twa”, me bann ki dir twa “mo pe ekout twa, mo pe tann twa”.

Dapre twa, li enn don swa enn fardo ?

Mwa mo dir toulede, an mem tan ek pa fer nanye sa. 

Ipersansibilite pa enn zafer ki bizin geri sa. Li enn zafer ki to bizin aprivwaze. Ek kan to resi fer li, kan to aret lit kont seki to ete, li vinn enn to bann pwin for. 

Lemond bizin bann dimoun ki resanti vremem. Ki konekte vremem, ki viv vremem. Sa lemond-la bizin twa, kouma to ete vremem.

Twa, kouma to viv to ipersansibilite ? Kouma enn don swa kouma enn fardo, oubien enn melanz toulede ? 

*sa foto-la inn zenere par enn intelizans artifisiel (IA)